This is February's column in the York Press, Healthy, Beauty and Wellbeing section, dated Monday February 10th, 2014.
Makes me feel safe Is jealous
Makes me feel comfortable Is possessive
Listens to me Tries to control me
Values my opinions Gets violent, loses
Supports what I want to do in life Always blames me
Is truthful with me Is sexually demanding
Admits to being wrong Keeps me from seeing
friends & family
Respects me Makes all the decisions
Likes that I have other friends Embarrasses me in
front of others
Makes me laugh Hits me
Trusts me. Makes me cry
Treats me as an equal Is always ‘checking
up’ on me
Respects my family Takes my money and
Accepts me as I am Teases, bullies and
puts me down.
Understands my need for time alone Threatens to leave me
or with family if I don’t do what I’m
In a perfect world, we would all have relationships in the left Loves Me, column, but this is an imperfect world. At home, the workplace, school, college, clubs, in fact anywhere, if there is a relationship in your life that ticks some lines in the right hand, Loves Me Not, column, please ask someone for advice and support.
NB: I would add to the newspaper column here and write that the person displaying behaviours in the Loves Me column is emotionally mature, while the person displaying behaviours in the Loves Me Not column is emotionally immature. Both the giver and receiver need help.